Author: Kevin Núñez

  • Vertical Embrace

    Vertical Embrace

    Refreshed Blog

    As I look ahead to everything we’re building this year, I’ve decided to go back to the beginning. Every now and again, alongside our new community posts, I’ll be refreshing some of my “classic” writings—pieces I wrote years ago that still speak to the core of the advocacy life today.We start with a question I get asked more than almost any other: “Can you stand up?”

    It’s time to answer that once and for all. The answer is both “yes” and “no.”I can bear my own weight, which creates the illusion of standing. But in reality, I am a balance act; I can tip over the second I’m placed in that position. I can only stand semi-independently if I’m holding onto a grab bar or something similar. Eventually, my arms will give out, and I’ll be on the floor until someone picks me up.When I say I am “bearing my weight,” I mean my muscles are doing the work of sustaining my body mass. I just need someone there to stabilize the frame. It doesn’t take specialized medical skill to help me—it just takes practice and the confidence to realize that we aren’t going to drop each other.

    The ironic thing is that many people in my life have never seen me do this. I usually save it for transfers or therapy. But the most important reason I stand isn’t for exercise. It’s because it puts me in the perfect position to do something I can’t do from my chair: give a real hug.

    Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. Philippians 4:Because

    I am always in a seated position, I can’t easily give the people I love a gentle, chest-to-chest embrace. I usually have to wait for them to come down to my level. Most people know me in two ways: either as the loudmouth, obnoxious joker, or the constant professional looking for the next advocacy opportunity. They are so used to the “Seated Kevin” that they don’t even consider the “Standing Kevin.”The look of shock—and sometimes horror—I get when I ask, “Can you stand me up so I can give you a hug?”

    Never gets old. Sometimes I don’t even ask because I can sense their discomfort.But I’m sharing this now because we live in a world where simple, human affection is often frowned upon or treated as something “wrong.” The truth is, so many people are starving for simple human contact. There are so many people I’ve wanted to hug over the years but never did because the world was too afraid of the mechanics to see the man.I’m done hiding the “trays” of my life. If you see me this year, don’t be afraid of standing. Be ready for the embrace.

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  • Power of vulnerability vs Fear

    Power of vulnerability vs Fear

    What are you afraid of?”It’s a question that feels like it belongs on a high-stakes reality show, but for those of us navigating the advocacy world and the disability community, it’s a question we live with every single day. We often feel pressured to be the “fearless” leaders, the ones who always have the answers and never let the weight of our diagnosis or our circumstances pull us down.True strength isn’t about the absence of fear; it’s about the courage to be vulnerable despite it.I found myself watching the new season of Fear Factor. Watching people face physical challenges made me reflect on my own life and the things society expects me to be afraid of. People look at my life and assume I must be terrified of losing my job, my caregivers, or even my future.The truth? I’m not afraid of those things. I’ve been living on a budget since I was 18. I’ve had my fair share of bad caregivers and I know how to direct my own care. I’m not afraid of a world that’s afraid of me. I’ve spent my whole life adapting, and I know that if I get a chance at a real paid job, I’ll be the employee of the month in thirty days.I am no longer afraid of my diagnosis as I was when I was a kid. I’m no longer afraid to ask for help from my best friend, Jesus Christ.So, if I’m not afraid of the “big” things society points to, what am I afraid of?If I’m being perfectly honest—and completely vulnerable—I’m deathly afraid of dying alone. As I approach 40 in a few years, I think about the partnerships and relationships we all long for.In our world, people often focus so much on surface values and physical appearance that they never look beyond to the person underneath. Relationships often stall because society doesn’t always see the person with a disability as a partner to build a life with. I’m not afraid of trying to have a relationship; I’m afraid I won’t get the chance.Why Vulnerability is Your SuperpowerThis is the part of the “limbo” that we rarely discuss in public. We talk about policy, we talk about resources, and we talk about legislation. But we rarely talk about the human desire for connection and the fear of being left behind.I share this because I believe that showing our vulnerability is where our true strength lies. When we hide who we are or what our needs are—like I used to hide my school tray in the back of the class so other kids wouldn’t see it—we are living in fear. When we step out and say, “This is who I am, this is what I need, and this is what I hope for,” we reclaim our power.Advocacy is about more than just fighting for the “big” things; it’s about fighting for the right to live a full, human life—complete with all its fears and vulnerabilities.I’ve shown you my heart. Now, I want to hear yours. What are you afraid of? What are the barriers—internal or external—that you’re working to overcome this week?Let’s stop hiding in the back of the room. Let’s bridge those gaps together and show the world that we are not a community defined by fear, but a community defined by the courage to live authentically.Keep on rolling. Keep on living.

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  • The Wheelchair Tool

    The Wheelchair Tool

    Podcast Episode

    Welcome back to The Advocacy Life Podcast! In this crucial episode, “The Wheelchair Tool,” we are bridging the gap of understanding between the public and mobility devices. Host Kevin Nunez addresses common misconceptions and misunderstandings about wheelchairs, clarifying the difference between an electric wheelchair and a scooter. Key Takeaways in this episode:Tool, Not a Toy: A wheelchair is an expensive, customized life tool, not an accessory, handbag, or luxury item. Kevin’s new chair, for which he’s been fitted, costs between \$50,000 and \$60,000. The New Chair Goal: Kevin shares his goal of getting a new wheelchair with a rise function to allow him to speak and interact at eye level, and to reach higher shelves. Wheelchair Etiquette 101: Learn the dos and don’ts of interacting with someone in a wheelchair: Never hang off the back or push the chair without permission. Never grab the joystick. Stop the overused, disrespectful jokes like, “How fast does that thing go?”. Defense Mechanism: Kevin discusses how the wheelchair serves as his only defense in public, even during an active shooter drill. Maintenance & Health: The importance of regular servicing, and how being vigilant (like Kevin) can help prevent pressure sores (which are preventable, unlike what happened to Christopher Reeve). Be respectful, be kind, and realize the person in the chair is just trying to live their life the best way they can.Episode Transcripthttps://turboscribe.ai/transcript/share/8457760100267752062/wmlNVLD4RKnq15t6xT7_ZC8Fqyt3qGD_oniImTCAIPI/tal-s4-e2-the-wheelchair-tool

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  • The Heart of an Advocate

    The Heart of an Advocate


    There’s no way around it: living with a disability is difficult. But choosing to be an advocate and a leader for the disability community? That is even harder.

    Welcome to our latest Community Blog installment. Here at The Advocacy Life, we believe in pulling back the curtain on what it truly means to represent a movement. Often, when people think of leadership, they think of “fame, fortune, and finish lines.” But in the world of disability advocacy, the reality looks a lot different.

    If you are looking for a get-rich-quick scheme, advocacy is not it. More often than not, there is no money involved. At best, you might be reimbursed for your expenses; realistically, you’ll likely lose more financially than you’ll ever gain.
    It isn’t about fame, either. I’ve been blogging for four years, and I haven’t hit 500 followers. On YouTube, I’m under 200. These aren’t the kind of metrics that make you a “social media influencer.” And let’s be honest—it doesn’t exactly help your dating life. There is nothing less “impressive” to a potential partner than saying you stayed up all night drafting bylaws for a non-profit organization.

    It isn’t even about job security or status. If I resigned tomorrow, the mission would continue. Someone else would step in to fill the seat. So, if there’s no money, no fame, and no status, it leads to one fundamental question:

    For the Ones Who Can’t Speak
    The reason I choose to dedicate my life to this work is simple: I do it for the ones who can’t speak for themselves.
    I have a profound love for my brothers and sisters who are non-verbal. I love the way they communicate their needs and desires through action, presence, and spirit, even when they can’t find the words. I consider it a sacred responsibility to be the interpreter for those who just need a little extra time to be understood.

    When leaders or policymakers call me for input, I don’t pick up the phone for credit. I pick it up because there is an unmet need in our community, and someone has to “man up” or “woman up” to address it.

    It infuriates me when I hear people say, “I can’t be an advocate  or “I’m just not the advocacy type.” When you live with a disability, this is your community. These are your people. Whether you like it or not, when you speak up, you aren’t just speaking for yourself—you are speaking on behalf of a community. Yes, your individual circumstances are unique, but your voice contributes to the collective volume of our movement.

    When you choose silence, or when you say you “can’t do it,” you aren’t just letting yourself down—you’re letting down the community you are a part of. You are letting down a vital part of the American story.

    To my fellow men and women with disabilities: we need you. The future of our rights and our resources depends on a collective effort. We cannot build a better future if only a few of us are willing to do the thankless work of drafting bylaws, attending meetings, and speaking truth to power.

    If you feel like you don’t know how to start, reach out to us. That is why this Community Blog exists—to provide the tools, the encouragement, and the platform for others to find their voice.
    We need to get together now, not later. Because when we speak together, we create a future where everyone is heard.

    Thank you for reading this week’s Community Blog. If this resonated with you, please share it with a fellow advocate who needs to hear that their hard work—even when unpaid and unnoticed—matters.Keep on rolling. Keep on living.

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  • Goals & Gratitude

    Goals & Gratitude

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    Welcome back to The Advocacy Life Podcast and Vlog! We are kicking off 2026 with a brand new season of episodes, focusing on what truly matters: Gratitude and Goals! Host Kevin Nunez is back after missing November and December (life happened, including a kitchen remodel and he’s bringing quality over quantity by switching to two high-quality episodes a month.In this episode, Kevin gets personal, sharing what he’s deeply thankful for:Family and Friends: A huge shout out to the family (Dad, Mom, Stepdad, etc.) who help set up the podcast equipment, and to friends—the initial reason he started podcasting. Growth: Being thankful for the podcast evolving from sketchy cell phone recordings to a fully-developed show, and for hitting 200 subscribers on theadvocacylife.com alone! Health Victories: Celebrating a major victory in 2025: the first year in about five years without any surgeries or major hospitalizations. Small Connections: Sharing a major connection made at a state function that led to sending in a resume for a potential staff position with Governor-Elect Mikey Sherrill. Then, he lays out his ambitious goals for 2026:Writing: Finishing his third book, the conclusion to the Living Beyond Disability series, which focuses on Disability Policy 101 for self-advocates. Personal Victory: Buying new clothes and new accessible Billy Shoes—a huge deal after losing weight and dealing with the constant battle of finding shoes that fit orthotics.

    Social Life: The deeply personal goal of making a real, close friend to talk to more regularly.

    Episode Transcripts

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  • 10 Core Principles For Life

    10 Core Principles For Life

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  • Principles for Advocacy Groups

    Principles for Advocacy Groups

    A Community Blog

    Following up on our conversation last week about the state of disability advocacy, I want to drill down into a crucial, and often painful, question: Why do so many advocacy organizations, even those founded with fire and passion by disabled individuals, stray from their mission and devolve into nothing more than a social club.

    The answer isn’t a lack of passion; it’s a lack of professional structure. For an organization to last beyond its first two years, it must establish a proper foundation. First, there must be a clear mission or purpose. Ideas are plentiful, but without a singular, defined goal, energy dissipates into general activities that accomplish little. This is quickly followed by the necessity of a clear Leadership structure. A plan for decision-making must be ironed out within the first six months; without it, the organization becomes directionless.Mission and leadership mean little without accountability. Proven accountability must be figured out from the very beginning.

    Stakeholders—from staff to community members—need to know how serious issues will be addressed. Furthermore, advocacy requires resources, so a clear financial structure and plan must be in place before you begin. Make your financial proposal accessible and transparent to all interested parties; professional integrity starts with financial transparency.To avoid simply becoming a complaint factory, we must think outside the box. Advocacy organizations must propose solutions and not just complain about problems. This is where we show our mettle. We must also cultivate an organization of advocates willing to do the work, not just talk about doing the work. The dignity of the advocacy movement demands that the organization also take on the dignity of risk—meaning we are willing to take bold action and accept the professional risks that come with true, game-changing efforts.As an organization matures, it must define its lane. What is your competitive Advantage.

    to make your organization different from all the others? Simply advocating for “disabled people” is too broad. You must pull the resources and strength of your membership, recognizing that everyone has a story and a different set of skills. That difference is a strength, not a liability, but it means that not everyone can perform the same tasks.This brings us to mission clarity: If your organization is designed for teaching, then teach. If your organization is for change, then focus on change; you can’t effectively do both without splitting your efforts and diminishing your impact. The advocacy movement is not new, but we are undeniably in a new era, and we need to find new ways to deliver our message.This

    This new era demands structure, specialization, and professional accountability.The time for passion alone to drive advocacy is over. We must match the intensity of our commitment with the clarity of our organizational design. Only then can we guarantee that our organizations last, grow, and truly fulfill their vital mission. For my incredible community.

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    be sharing an additional Community Blog this week to keep our conversations flowing! Until I get my podcast back up and running, you can expect these bonus Community Blogs every Wednesday. Thank you for your understanding and continued engagement!

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  • The League Of Disabled Americans ( The Big Idea)

    The League Of Disabled Americans ( The Big Idea)

    A Community Blog

    For years, I’ve observed and participated in the vital work of disability advocacy. We have incredible organizations, passionate individuals, and powerful stories. Yet, despite our collective strength, there remains a persistent sense that we often react rather than truly shape the national agenda. We fight battles, win some, lose some, but the systemic shift that many of us yearn for feels perpetually just out of reach.

    It’s time for a new approach. It’s time to think bigger, to act more strategically, and to consolidate our power where it matters most: influencing policy at the highest levels. My vision is for a new advocacy organization, unlike any other, dedicated solely to influencing policy in America. I call it: The League of Disabled Americans.

    This League would be comprised exclusively of individuals with disabilities – a powerful testament to our lived experience and expertise. Imagine: two representatives from each of the 50 states, plus two from each of the U.S. territories, for a total of 112 dedicated advocates. Each member would be directly nominated by the disability community within their respective state or territory, ensuring true grassroots representation and accountability.

    From day one, this body would operate with a clear, decisive purpose. A steering committee, formed from these initial representatives, would immediately begin drafting a concise list of goals and objectives. These wouldn’t be vague aspirations, but concrete policy targets. Well-organized instructions and bylaws would govern its operation, ensuring transparency, efficiency, and a unified voice. This is about precision, not popularity contests.

    One of the greatest pitfalls for many advocacy organizations is thinking too small and attempting to grow organically without a clear, scaled strategy. The League of Disabled Americans would reverse this paradigm. Instead of building from the bottom up, hoping to gain traction, we would think backwards. What is the ultimate, audacious goal – a truly inclusive America, fully represented in policy? Now, how do we break that down into smaller, achievable objectives that culminate in that vision? This means setting a high bar from the outset, focusing on impact, and building a structure designed for influence.

    Crucially, this organization needs to start with well-recognized advocates. This isn’t to exclude anyone, but to establish immediate credibility and leverage. We need figures who command respect, who understand the political landscape, and who can walk into a room and be heard. The goal is to establish a presence so undeniable that organizations, legislative bodies, and policymakers come to us for insight and partnership, rather than us constantly having to beg for funds and support. We must shift from being supplicants to being indispensable partners in policy development.

    Finally, and perhaps most importantly, The League of Disabled Americans would exist to help break down the silos within the broader disability advocacy community. We are too often fragmented, each fighting our own specific battle. While vital, this fragmentation can diminish our collective power. The League would serve as a unifying force, identifying cross-disability issues, sharing best practices, and presenting a cohesive, national front on policy matters that affect us all. It would be a hub of knowledge, strategy, and power, ensuring that the diverse voices of the disabled community speak with a singular, unignorable purpose in the halls of power.

    This is an ambitious vision, yes. But the time for timid advocacy is over. The time for a truly independent, disabled-led, policy-focused force is now. Let’s build the League of Disabled Americans and demand our seat at every table where decisions are made.

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  • November 10,, 2025 Disability Limbo Newsletter

    November 10,, 2025 Disability Limbo Newsletter

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