Author: Kevin Núñez

  • Birthday Reflections & More

    Birthday Reflections & More

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  • Disabled & Grateful

    Disabled & Grateful

    “I’m thankful for my struggles because they revealed my gifts.”

    Hey friends, I hope you’re having an outstanding day.

    The quote above is from a meme I posted years ago on a random Friday night. I completely forgot about it—until it popped up in my memories recently. When I saw it, I paused. It hit me differently this time. And what I’m about to say next might annoy some people. I might even lose a few followers over it. But I have to be honest. I’ve never actually said this out loud—so I’m using voice dictation just to get it out:

    “Thank you, Father God, for giving me Cerebral Palsy.”

    1 Thessalonians 5:18 NIV [18] give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.

    Still reading? If you think I’ve lost it, give me a minute to explain.

    Like most people, I spend too much time on social media, especially since I started this blog. I haven’t made a single dollar from anything I’ve posted (as I promised myself from day one), but let’s be real: if you want people besides your grandma, cousins, and a few loyal friends to read your content, this is one of the few ways.

    I know social media is a battleground now—red team vs. blue team, constant opinions, arguments, and sides. But that’s not what bothers me. Everyone’s entitled to their perspective. I’m not going to stop being friends with someone just because we disagree.

    What does hit hard, though, are the subtle (and not-so-subtle) reminders of the expectations society places on us. At 37, I’m not young anymore—but I’m not old either. I’m not even considered middle-aged. It’s this strange in-between stage, this unspoken limbo.

    When you scroll past all the politics and noise, you’ll find the beautiful things: baby announcements, first day of school photos, wedding pictures, memes about hating jobs and loving new homes.

    And then… there’s me.

    No kids. No house. No wedding photos to share.

    But please—don’t pity me. And don’t call me a martyr.

    It took me a long time to understand that I was created on purpose for a specific purpose. Yes, there are hard days. Life isn’t fair. And a lot of people just don’t get me. But here’s the truth: if I didn’t have this disability, I wouldn’t be writing this blog.

    There are plenty of writers—disabled and able-bodied—but none of them have my story. My perspective. And that makes this blog uniquely mine.

    I don’t waste time playing the “what if” game. I focus on what is and what can be. The closest I’ve come to “what if” is something my brother and I once agreed on: without our disability, we probably wouldn’t be as humble, patient, or grounded as we are today.

    Disability changes how you see the world. It gives you strength you can’t explain. Honestly, I can only call it what it is: God’s grace.

    Because of it, I’ve seen the best—and the worst—in people.

    When I first started this blog, I thought it would be strictly about disability policy. But sometimes, you can’t ignore when something bigger is working through you. If it weren’t for one of my transition coordinators, I would’ve never joined that leadership training series that launched me into disability advocacy.

    I ended up in a day program for the majority of my twenties I did not like it. I thought it was for those who are forgotten. I was so determined to go to college, just to prove everyone wrong. Fast forward, and now I have parents thanking me for bringing their concerns to legislators, on behalf of the children and adults who can’t speak for themselves.

    Do I still have things I want? Of course. That’s what it means to be human. But growing, learning, and discovering new strengths is also part of the human journey.

    I pray these words reach you in whatever way you need them to.

    I thank God for creating you—and for all the gifts He’s given you, whether you’ve discovered them yet or not.

    Have a great day, and I hope to see you next time.

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  • Moments I Was Made For Podcast Episode

    Moments I Was Made For Podcast Episode

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    In the 5th episode of season 3. Kevin relives his experience attending the joint session of Congress on March 4th, 2025. Trigger warning: this may be moving for some listeners or viewers. As always, if you like this content, please like and share.

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  • Next Book Idea

    Next Book Idea

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  • Misunderstanding Words

    Misunderstanding Words

    “Dude, your car is awesome!” “This pizza is awful, I’m never ordering from here again!”

    If those sentences sound normal to you, think again. The words “awesome” and “awful” both come from the same root—meaning something overwhelming or filled with awe. Yet one now means something great, and the other, something terrible.

    Words change over time. But sometimes, we don’t realize how much meaning they still carry. Take “idiot” or “insane.” These words used to be medical terms used to describe people with mental disabilities. Even the New Jersey Constitution once said that “no idiot or insane person” could vote. Thankfully, that language was removed in the early 2000s. Still, words like these show how language can be harmful, even if we don’t mean it to be.I want to invite you to explore how the words we use can shape how we treat each other—especially people with disabilities.

    This might sound like just a matter of “political correctness” or semantics, but it’s more than that. Think about how some slurs are still used jokingly among friends but would be completely unacceptable from someone outside that group. Language isn’t just about words—it’s about context, history, and tone.

    Let me give you a real example. One night, I was out with friends. During our conversation, someone casually used the R-word. I cringed inside. No one meant any harm, but it still hit me hard. I didn’t want to turn the night into a lesson or make a scene. So, when the evening ended, I quietly pulled that person aside and explained why the word was offensive. They apologized, and that was it. No drama, no lecture—just an honest moment of learning.

    Being an advocate doesn’t mean I can’t have fun. It means choosing how and when to speak up, and doing it in a way that encourages understanding—not shame.

    Today, we talk a lot about acceptance, but we also need to practice tolerance. People will make mistakes. They’ll say the wrong thing. That doesn’t mean they deserve to be “canceled” or shut out forever. Words are tools. They can hurt, but they can also heal, build, and inspire change.

    A few years ago, comedian Kevin Hart made a joke about parenting that upset many people. Years later, it cost him a chance to host the Oscars. If we’re going to judge everyone by their past mistakes, we’ll never grow or forgive. We need to teach, not just punish.

    In the end, language is like comedy—it’s all about delivery. It’s not just what you say, but how you say it. Tone matters. Audience matters. Communication isn’t one-size-fits-all. We all make mistakes, but we can learn and do better.

    Thank you for reading. I hope this makes you think more deeply about the words you use—and how we can all become more mindful of the messages we send.

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  • The State of Disability in America Podcast Episode

    The State of Disability in America Podcast Episode

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    For the fourth episode of season 3, Kevin describes how he sees the state of the disability movement in America today. This is not factual. This is my opinion. The point is to motivate people to act. If you like this content, please subscribe for more details in the show notes.

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  • The DSP World

    The DSP World

    I wanted to raise awareness to a very big problem in our world today. It rarely gets any publicity; the average person doesn’t even know about it. The truth is unless you are affected by this problem, you don’t even know it exists. The problem is the lack of pay and benefits for direct support professionals (DSPs). What is a DSP? A direct support professional is someone who is paid through a provider agency or an individual to provide support and care to a person with a disability. As long as there are people who need assistance in their lives there will always be need for these professionals. There are four groups of people who are affected by this issue. They are: the individuals receiving the care, the family of the individual, the providers, and the professionals themselves. 

    Let me begin by addressing the individuals receiving the care.  People that have a disability will learn that they often must depend on others to assist them in one way or another.  They depend on the kindness of others to help them live their day-to-day lives. Could you trust someone with your most intimate tasks if you knew they would leave in six months? Just imagine knowing you’re going to lose the person you most confide in, even before they start. People with disabilities can tell almost immediately if the person is going to be good at their job. Most of all they can tell if the person will last. 

    Use your imagination for this next part please. You meet a person named Matt. After meeting him for only four hours, you need a shower. He must first undress you completely. Then he puts you in a shower chair. He then proceeds to give you a shower. Matt does his best to wash your private areas. After finishing and drying you off, he begins to dress you. If the individual is so fortunate, he can direct Matt on how and what to do. The truth is there are many individuals in the disability community that cannot speak for themselves. Therefore, Matt must try to interpret what they are trying to communicate. This is just one of the many duties of a DSP. I hope this brief example can illustrate the need for these very special people. 

    Next, I would like to talk about the direct support professionals themselves.  These professionals receive about 10 to 11 dollars an hour with no promise of growth in their career. Most providers offer little to no benefits at all (this includes sick time or health insurance). As a result if DSPs don’t work, they aren’t paid. This leads to severe burnout. Many times, they sacrifice their own health and well-being to make sure they can provide for their family and/or pay their bills. It’s ironic that they are responsible for the health and well-being of another human when, due to the lack of health benefits such as sick days, they cannot take care of their own health needs. What inevitably happens is the person leaves to another company in hopes of a dollar more. People believe they can use this job as a steppingstone toward a larger career goal. The other misconception is this job will only be a temporary solution until another opportunity opens up. They end up living paycheck to paycheck. The professional waits in limbo until they burn out or they get another job. 

    So why would someone do this job at all? These wonderful people do it because they care for others. They look forward to the moments when their individual lights up when they arrive in the morning for their shift. The relationship between an individual and the professional is truly symbiotic if done correctly. The individual gets a companion to help them with their wants and needs. In turn the professional should receive joy in the knowledge they are doing something to help someone live their life. Some things are worth more than money. It is truly heartbreaking when it is time for the professional to move on. The best way I know to describe this feeling for an individual, it’s like losing a loved one. For the professional, they are left with the memories of a person that has worked their way into their hearts. 

    The family and/or parents of an individual can also be affected by the DSP issue. Try to imagine having a 25-year-old son that you have cared for his entire life. One day someone shows up at your door ready to take him out to the park for the day. You as the parent are told almost nothing about the person who will be supporting your child for the rest of the day. By the same token, the professional knows almost nothing about the individual and the family they will be supporting. Most times both parties are just given a name with a brief description. A relationship of trust has to be formed out of thin air. This sadly is one of the best-case scenarios. Most individuals as they get older lose their family and the professional becomes, by default, their brother, mother, etc. Depending on the individual’s disability, they will rely on their “families” in almost every way. They need an advocate, a caregiver, and a friend. Could you imagine learning to give your complete trust to a stranger every six months? 

    The final group of people that are affected by the DSP issue are the provider agencies. The turnover rate in this industry is incredibly high. Providers cannot keep their staff. They spend money training these professionals and then they quit a few months later. The money is lost. The rates for these staff and providers have not been increased in approximately 10 years. For example if the state allows $15 per hour to a provider, and $10 goes towards the DSP, that leaves the provider with only five dollars to spend subsequent overhead, including important items like gloves and vehicle maintenance. The providers cannot give their staff benefits or raises if they are barely able to keep themselves above water. 

    The direct support professional problem in my humble opinion has reached crisis levels not just statewide but nationally as well. As long as there are people, people will always need care.  This industry is not going away any time soon. The system will never be perfect but something needs to be done now. This needs to be a call to action. We need to contact our state and federal officials to educate them on this very real problem. If we don’t act now people with disabilities may not have people around us to help us live our lives. 

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  • A Prayer for all

    A Prayer for all

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    In the third episode of season 3, Kevin does a prayer and a blessing for anyone who needs it. This is a deeply personal look at the spiritual life of a person with a disability. If this topic interests you, please share and subscribe.

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  • The Good Fight: A poem

    The Good Fight: A poem

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  • The Kennedy Family & Disabled Americans

    The Kennedy Family & Disabled Americans

    “A snake pit, where they live in filth and dirt, their clothing in rags, in rooms less comfortable and cheerful than the cages in which we put animals in a zoo.”

    Robert Kennedy Senior made this statement when he was visiting Willowbrook in 1965.

    Willowbrook State School was a state-supported institution for children with intellectual disabilities. Designed to accommodate 4,000 children, by 1965, Willowbrook had a population of 6,000, and a scandal soon erupted over news of the institution’s horrendous conditions and questionable medical practices. It was not closed for another 2 years despite all the outrage. Would you want your child to live in these conditions?

    Disability does not have a political party. A disability does not have a skin color or a specific ethnic race. Disability is America. The only two things certain in this world are death and disability. What makes America great is that we learn from our past so we don’t repeat the mistakes we have made. Disability is not waste, fraud, or abuse. Disability is an example of Hope and prosperity in the American dream. The American Disability community is an example of living prosperity and endurance.

    It’s hard to pinpoint the exact birth of the disability rights movement because disability has been around since the beginning of time, and it will be there until the end of days. America was introduced to the harsh reality of abuse through Robert Kennedy Sr.’s poignant account. Devoid of proper respect and support. Our community faces suffering and death. An autism diagnosis is not evil or a death sentence. A wheelchair is not a confinement, but a tool for opulence.

    This is the current battle that disabled America is facing. We won’t stand for our brothers and sisters being locked up. We aim to help people live fulfilling lives. In the land of the free and the brave, we uphold truth, justice, and the American way as a testament to our identity. Living with a disability presents many challenges. While that’s a fact, things worth pursuing are rarely simple.

    “We choose to do these things not because they’re easy, but because they’re hard.”

    President John F Kennedy made this statement when referring to reaching the Moon in a decade. We have the same privilege to reach for the same stars as anyone else. In America, we do not fear challenges; we embrace them so we can grow. America today is making choices out of fear and misunderstanding. I believe in America, I believe in its people. We still have time to change course. To see value in all of us. Our chosen elected officials need to listen to us.

    '“ Do not seek revenge or bear a grudge against anyone among your people, but love your neighbor as yourself. I am the Lord. 'Leviticus 19:18

    “I don’t think people should take medical advice from me.’

    This statement was made by Robert Kennedy Jr. The current Secretary of Health and Human Services. There will always be misconceptions around disability and our healthcare. However, if we are left out of the conversation, we cannot help the country move forward. The current administration and the disability community cannot be enemies, we must be allies to achieve tomorrow’s victories. Without disability, America will fail because we are America.

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