My SABE Second Chance

Have you missed an opportunity, and it became a nagging thought in the back of your mind that you couldn’t shake? Not necessarily regret, simply something you always wondered about. A “what if” moment. Second chances don’t come along that often. especially if you have a disability. Most of the time, we don’t get a first chance. Well, for the first time in my life, I’ve been blessed with this second opportunity. I’m scared to take it, but I know I’m ready for it.

In case you didn’t read last week’s blog, here is a quick synopsis. In 2018, I attended the national SABE conference. Self Advocates Becoming Empowered is the leading independent advocacy organization run by and for people with disabilities. Every voting member on their board has to have a disability. The representatives divide the country into regions. New Jersey is in Region 7. Along with Pennsylvania, Delaware, Washington, DC, Maryland, Virginia, and West Virginia. At the last conference, I was given the opportunity to represent my region as an alternate. It was kind of last minute. I made a bunch of excuses and decided I wasn’t ready. The next conference was in 2020. That would have been plenty of time to make the right connections.

Honestly, over the years, I moved on from SABE. I thought it was going to be one of those moments in life. It’s been 3 years, and I haven’t had a conference due to the global situation. I was recruited to serve the region on an income basis. Until the next national conference Why me? I don’t deserve to do anything. So many people have died in the last three years with disabilities. How can I be their voice? I’m a goofball by nature. How can people trust me?

I’m a firm believer in God’s timing because it’s no coincidence that this opportunity opened back up after my big brother Jesus found me and picked me up. One of the things I have to do is put together a regional conference. A conference made up of every state that I will be representing to educate and collaborate on disability issues. Apart from all the duties of the national organization. I will not lie; I’m more than a little scared. Intimidation is an understatement.

New Jersey is a small state, and the advocacy community is very small. The organization and the region have been on hiatus. I have to make all new connections and all new contacts. There hasn’t been a regional conference in over 10 years!

"When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze." Isaiah 43:2 NIV 

As I’ve said before, I never got to finish college. If, through the glory of God, I get to put together this conference, this will be my graduation. This is the hardest thing I have ever attempted. Zoom and Google Workspace will be tremendous resources. Something that was not discovered years ago. I need to give a huge thank you to the New Jersey Council on Developmental Disabilities for sponsoring me on this journey. By the time this is published, everything should be made official. Someone smarter than me once said, “Life begins outside your comfort zone.” This may not be professional for a blogger, but I’m asking that if you took the time to read this, please pray for me. Not for success. That’s all for God. I’m just looking for wisdom and strength. Never give up, because God won’t give up on you!

Special Announcement

I will be taking a small break for the rest of the summer to finish the first draft of my book. Confessions of a Wise Fool. The first draft is always the hardest and I want to get finished before I start working with SABE. I will be back with more blogs after Labor Day. I promise I will still be doing podcasts, so stay tuned to the website! Enjoy the summer.

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