Tag: Disability Awareness

  • For the Love of America

    For the Love of America

    I am a political nerd. I like to watch C-SPAN when I can. This week I knew something special was going to happen. In case you missed it, New Jersey Senator Cory Booker was on the Senate floor for over 25 hours. The man did not stop speaking. He did not sit down unless he was asked a question. He answered the question despite that, he did not sit down! Most Americans feel unheard by their elected officials. Many of the senator’s words were reading letters from his constituents to protect Medicaid. The Medicaid program is not healthcare, it is a lifeline for millions of Americans. Senator Booker, thank you for hearing us.

    I still don’t understand how cutting 880 billion dollars over 10 years is the best path forward for America. Are The prices of eggs going to go down? One in three children who use these benefits are they going to be okay? So many counties nationwide use the Meals on Wheels program to feed older adults. Can local municipalities be ready to pick up the cost? Can they even do so? Yes, the American way of life is expensive, but we cannot save costs at the expense of the most vulnerable. Individuals with disabilities are so strong they need the right support and the opportunities to show it.

    1 Corinthians 3:10 NIV By the grace God has given me, I laid a foundation as a wise builder, and someone else is building on it. But each one should build with care.

    I understand and will fully admit that the government can be way too big. I’m a capitalist through and through. This website is where I sell my books and other works. Americans do need more money in their pocket, but this is not how to do it. When a doctor takes a sample for a biopsy, they use a scalpel, not a hacksaw! If you are going to switch to a new mode of operation, then give people a chance to learn so they can follow it. This week, Secretary Kennedy and President Trump cut a lot of positions from the Department of Human Services. That is a prerogative. What’s wrong is how they do it. Depending on the position, they’re not offered a severance package. You cannot build America without its people.

    Is there a formula that decides what jobs are needed and what jobs are not? Are these decisions being made by artificial intelligence? How do you value an American life? I want the best for vongressional representatives, senators, and president Trump. I want the best for the American people. America will not be the best if we leave others behind. The next building, a strong future, means using all Americans.

    Senator Booker gave us a call to action. A lot of us cannot go, march in Washington, DC. I have another idea post video of your day post them all over social media. Show yourself getting out of bed with twheelsgiver. show yourself with your husband or wife going to the store. If you deliver Meals on Wheels, then take a picture with the person you gave the food to. Let those in power see the smiles on our faces. Help them remember that brief moment also built America. America is more than money. America is neighbors helping each other. America is everyone doing the part. America is alive. Either we all thrive or we will not survive. Thank you for your time.

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  • Comfortably undesirable

    Comfortably undesirable

    I was going to write another blog this week about protecting the rights of individuals with disabilities, but then I realized that this kind of blog also has to be shared because we also have the right as human beings to be loved and to be seen as sexual beings. As long as both individuals can consent and can fully comprehend what a relationship and or sexual encounter entails. Individuals with significant physical disabilities are discouraged from seeking any kind of romantic relationship. In movies and TV, they never show us in a realistic relationship scenario. We are saved for the “inspirational movie.” we are never seen going past a gentle kiss or a cute moment.

    As an individual with a disability, I have grown comfortable with my “different body.” However, in reality, it’s not different at all. I was born with ten fingers and ten toes—two legs and two arms—and most importantly, a heart. Over the years, I’ve learned that my disability can make me feel undesirable to the opposite sex. I can confidently speak in front of legislators and lobbyists, and I can maintain my balance, but the thought of talking to a woman instantly makes me sweat. Why is this?

    I don’t want this to be a “woe is me” narrative; rather, it’s a wake-up call to society regarding the choices they have made. Society often excludes us from love and relationships. We are not just children; we grow up to be adults, too.

    1 Corinthians 13:5-7 NIV It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.  Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

    Cartoon illustration of blind love or heart holding a cane

    Growing up, I looked up to physical specimens like Hulk Hogan and The Rock. However, none of them looked like me. As an adult, I noticed that the main character in “Fifty Shades of Grey” is a 6-foot-tall, muscular, very masculine man. When will people with disabilities be portrayed beyond their limitations? I believe that, at some point, they will remake “Basic Instinct.” Why not cast someone with a disability in those provocative scenes? In Hollywood, they now employ intimacy coaches to ensure that everyone feels safe during intimate moments.

    We know that the adult film industry is rife with human trafficking and abuse, including victims with disabilities, yet it often goes unnoticed. Our voices matter; our lives matter. I recognize that some men can be terrible. Women are frequently exposed to situations that allow them to be taken advantage of. The good guys tend to hesitate to approach women for fear of being perceived as a threat. By 2025, I’m sure every woman with a cell phone over a certain age will have received inappropriate pictures. As a result, women constantly keep their guard up. If a woman wants to be treated differently by a partner, she should seek a different kind of partner!

    If you search social media, you will likely find relationships where one person is paralyzed. I believe these relationships tend to be more socially acceptable because they were once considered “normal,” and there is a prevailing belief that those with such disabilities can do more for themselves. The concept of a disability hierarchy is another system designed to divide us. A human is a human; we all need love!

    I know I’ve covered a lot in this short blog, but that’s intentional. I want to encourage people to start having difficult conversations and become comfortable with being uncomfortable. By doing so, you will gain a better understanding of what it’s like to live with a disability.

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  • Life or Hypocrisy

    Life or Hypocrisy

    I know this writing is going to be controversial. All I ask is that you read to the end because an aspect of life is in danger. The assumption is that if you have a disability you automatically align with one political party. The reality is disability affects every aspect of life. I know people with disabilities on all sides of the political spectrum. The art of democracy is compromise and negotiation. Disability is not a partisan issue. I Love working with both Democrats and Republicans. I hope that someone from a red state or a conservative mindset is reading this because I am confused. I will never condemn a woman for choosing to terminate a pregnancy. Who am I to judge? All I know is God gave me a disability and a voice for a reason. My heart breaks every time I hear of a young lady going through with the procedure.

    As an American in 2025, my heart hurts more than ever. If we are pro-life can we put others’ lives in danger? The proposed cuts or caps to Medicaid would directly impact millions of lives. This will not save the taxpayers money, this will not cut wasteful spending. One in three children receives assistance through the Medicaid program. Medicare stops paying for nursing home assistance after 90 days most residents use Medicaid to live. Supporting individuals with disabilities is symbiotic to the growth of the American economy supporting one person with a disability guarantees three to four jobs a day. The Medicaid program is common sense. There is no downside.

    Most individuals and their families do not take advantage of the Medicaid program and its benefits. Give social workers the tools to investigate each case instead of limiting and overworking them. If you want to cut down on waste, go after the providers and corporations. That is where you find fraud and abuse. People will die!

    Isaiah 43:7 NIV “everyone who is called by my name, whom I created for my glory, whom I formed and made.”

    This misguided belief that people with significant needs will not be affected by these potential cuts to Medicaid is a lie. The word fear is a mnemonic device for Fake Evidence Appearing Real. When you call your elected official, ask them if they choose life or if they choose to fear. The Democratic Republic I was raised in was built on prosperity and hope, not fear.

    It’s no secret society fears what is different and difficult. Children in wheelchairs always get lots of attention and blessings from onlookers. Until about the age of 14 then it becomes a stare and pity. Life, no matter what age, is not meant to be convenient. It’s meant to be a journey. At what age does life stop having value? Is it when they cannot apply for a job? Is it when they don’t qualify for income tax? I hope my fellow Americans value more life than money. Otherwise, we are all hypocrites and liars. America, choose between life or hypocrisy?

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  • A day in America

    A day in America

    Most of us cannot remember what we had for lunch yesterday because of our busy schedules. Last Tuesday, March 4th, is a day I will never forget. I can recall that happened. In some ways, it doesn’t feel real. It feels like a dream. On this main blog, I usually don’t discuss my anecdotes; I usually save those for my paid newsletter so people can laugh. I save this place for professional topics. For this week, I have to mix them both. I was given the honor and the absolute privilege to attend the State of the Union by President Donald Trump. I was invited as a guest of New Jersey Senator Andy Kim. I spoke on the potential cuts to the Medicaid program and the damage it would cause to the disability community across the nation.

    I’ve found the subjects of civics, government, and politics fascinating. Most children want to be astronauts or play football. Maybe my disability had something to do with it, but neither one of those held any interest for me. I’ve always been a bit of an intellectual, a nerd. I love the art of conversation. I love peaceful discord. I love the Democratic Republic known as the United States of America. I love that I live in a country so great that people from all walks of life have to come together to serve the greater good from time to time. True, you cannot make everyone happy. That’s democracy.

    Walking through the halls of Congress, you can truly see a snapshot of America. You will see every ethnicity, every religion, and every point of view. Not only from the elected officials, but their staff as well. The truth is no country can survive for over 200 years if we are all forced to think and feel the same way. What has kept and will keep the great experiment thriving is that it is built on the backs of its people. We concede something to receive protection and liberty.

    One of my favorite moments of the day was when I sat down for dinner with Senator Andy Kim, a Democrat, and Senator Kevin Connor of North Dakota, a Republican. We engaged in many interesting and thought-provoking conversations, with Ted Cruz sitting just over my left shoulder.

    Luke 14:12-13 NIV Then Jesus said to his host, “When you give a luncheon or dinner, do not invite your friends, your brothers or sisters, your relatives, or your rich neighbors; if you do, they may invite you back and so you will be repaid. But when you give a banquet, invite the poor, the crippled, the lame, the blind, 

    Our discussions centered around disability, a topic that I am passionate about. I love my disability; it took me a long time to understand what it truly offers me. Disability is the great equalizer and represents the intersectionality of humanity. We are all affected by disability in some way. It is not a partisan issue; rather, it is a natural part of the human experience.

    My experiences with disability have broadened my perspective, allowing me to see every side of every possible discussion. It has shaped me into a moderate. I once thought I could only advocate for disability awareness, but my disability has equipped me to engage with various aspects of life. Not every issue is inherently political, but every issue has a connection to disability.

    Let me provide an example. I am an American immigrant, as I was born in Puerto Rico, which is a territory of the United States. Due to my disability, my family moved to New Jersey after I was born. People often worried that since I left Puerto Rico at such a young age, I would not be able to speak Spanish. However, at the age of 37, I gave an interview to a Telemundo affiliate entirely in Spanish, during which I once again discussed the issue of the proposed Medicaid changes.

    I’m not sure if I will ever work for a campaign or serve as a political advisor in Washington, D.C. However, I am grateful to have experienced the American Dream. I believe that my disability has allowed me to be a voice for those who cannot advocate for themselves. Thank you, Senator Andy Kim, and your wonderful staff for being so accommodating. I appreciate your time, and may God bless America!

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  • Life or Liberty?

    Life or Liberty?

    The Medicaid program was established in 1965 under President Lyndon B. Johnson. In its simplest form, Medicaid is health insurance for people with limited incomes. The proposed budget passed by the House of Representatives earlier this month would cut about 880 billion. If this program receives cuts or caps, people with intellectual and developmental disabilities will die.

    Matthew 22:39 NIV And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’

    This is not an overreaction. States cannot make up the funds if these cuts are in the final budget. If this program is limited in any way, America will unconsciously sponsor the genocide of its citizens over the next 10 years. I, for one, cannot get out of bed unless I have a caregiver who is paid by the state to help me get out of bed. Without them, I would die of a bed sore. No matter how much I move around. If an individual uses a feeding tube and no one is there to change the tube, they will die. To receive any adult services, such as attending a day program or any kind of supported employment, we must be eligible for Medicaid. Depending on how deep the cuts go, States will no longer be accepting new individuals, meaning folks will waste away in their homes. This will not save taxpayers money, it will cost them more. It has been proven that it is cheaper in the long run to have people live in the community instead of in an institutional setting.

    I can attest to this. I recently remodeled my home to make it more accessible. I redid the bathroom and added a Hoyer lift system to my bedroom. It did cost over $50,000. However, this will ensure that I can stay in my home for the next 15 or 20 years. With these necessary accommodations, I can continue to do my advocacy work and be a part of my community. As of the release of this writing, I am on the way to attend the State of the Union as a guest of New Jersey’s Senator Andy Kim. My brother is out with his caregiver getting eggs and milk. We both have the same disability and we’re still living a full life.

    Give me liberty or give me death!”

    Patrick Henry- american Patriot

    America can only thrive if everyone does their part. Supporting individuals with disabilities build local, state, and national economies. Disability is not a burden on society. It is a part of the human experience. I may have been born disabled but everyone else is only temporarily abled. People with disabilities are your neighbors, your family, and your friends. As we grow so does America. The Medicaid program is not a safety net, it is a lifeline. My fellow Americans, if you value life, then tell your elected officials in Washington, DC, no cuts to the Medicaid program. A disabled life is an American Life.

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  • Education for America

    Education for America

    Undeniably, reading and math comprehension scores have gone down across the country. Parents can feel lost because they cannot assist their children with their homework as new techniques of long division are being taught to our children. Since before the outbreak in 2020, a strong argument can be made that students today lack critical social and life skills before graduating high school. Americans should be concerned about the education of our kids. Changes must be made.

    Is eliminating the Department of Education (DOE) the answer? This proposed initiative was suggested well before President Trump took office. His executive order, signed a few days ago, cannot eliminate the department. That can only be done by Congress. People need to contact them. The belief is this would save the taxpayers money and give more control to the states. I will be the first one to advocate for eliminating wasteful spending and helping Americans with their taxes. This is not the way to do it.

    States rely on that funding to ensure adequate resources for their students. Especially those with disabilities and other educational needs. In the same way, the Electoral College ensures equal footing for the states. The DOE ensures equal opportunity for all students. Students with disabilities have value to their peers. They need the opportunity to show it. After a certain age, you learn that some lessons cannot be taught from a textbook but by interactions with those around you. Supporting individuals with disabilities. Creates jobs and innovative technologies.

    If students with intellectual and developmental disabilities are excluded from learning in the least restrictive environment then non-disabled students will be missing out on a vital part of the human experience. Education should never be a partisan issue all Americans should want the best for their children. If you believe, as I do, that prayer should be allowed back in schools, then why can’t someone pray alongside someone who has a disability? This is inclusion.

    Matthew 18:20 NIV For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.” 

    All parents should have options for where their children go to school; however, there must be safeguards and basic standards to ensure everyone has the opportunity to thrive beyond their circumstances. After all, America is a land of opportunity! The government should have limits, and that is the essence of the Constitution: to create a contract between the people and their government. A proper education promotes all parts of the preamble.

    “We the People of the United States, in Order to form a more perfect Union, establish Justice, insure domestic Tranquility, provide for the common defense, promote the general Welfare, and secure the Blessings of Liberty to ourselves and our Posterity, do ordain and establish this Constitution for the United States of America”

    Preamble to the US Constitution

    There’s a difference between disagreeing with the curriculum a school board offers and completely dismantling the educational system. Don’t throw the baby out with the bathwater. Attend your school board meetings. Advocate for your kids. No student should be confined to the back of a building because a school board lacks the resources to provide them with a proper education. Eliminating the Department of Education shouldn’t be about saving money, rather Ensuring the future of America is the objective!

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  • A disability Ally

    A disability Ally

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  • The Double Edge Sword of Identity

    The Double Edge Sword of Identity

    What makes a person who they are? Is it their gender? Is it their sexual orientation? Is it their ethnicity? Is it their faith? Is it the legacy they leave behind? Is it the way they’re perceived? Identity politics cannot define a human being As a Christian heterosexual Latino male with a developmental disability, I’m well aware of the labels society has put on me. Can you see me as Kevin?

    Gary Rubin, former SABE representative.

    “Labels are for soup cans, not people.” –Gary Rubin.

    On the back of my business cards is a photo of myself with the quote, “Look at the person, not the disability.”

     This is how most people perceive me. My disability does not define me; however, it is a significant part of my identity that I cannot separate from myself. Likewise, I cannot hide my Puerto Rican heritage or my love for Jesus Christ. A person cannot be defined by just one trait. It is the intersectionality of all these characteristics, combined with their experiences, that shapes who a person is.

    'And why do you look at the speck in your brother’s eye, but do not consider the plank in your own eye? 'Matthew 7:3

    It’s wrong to judge or to have any bias. The fact is we  all judge and have unconscious biases. I am seen as an inspiration or as a token for society. Someone who looks like me should be offered more jobs than just the greeter at Walmart. I’m aware of how blessed I am. I know I was put on this Earth to be the voice for others. We all have gifts and blessings that others desire. 

     The label of “disability” is the one I have to wear to have access to programs such as Medicaid and Medicare. It has never been about a check in the mail, it is my key to life. Without it, I don’t have caregivers to get me out of bed in the morning. In my life, I’ve employed anywhere from 20 to 30 different Direct Support Professionals (DSPs). Supporting individuals with disabilities does contribute to both local and federal economies.“Medicaid dollars”  helped me make notable accommodations to my home so I could live in a community and not be locked away. This will save taxpayers money in the long run. Any cuts or caps to these programs would be a slow death sentence. I have the same right to live as anyone else, but to do so, I have been placed in a societal box.

    The elimination of Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion (DEI) initiatives is extremely damaging to the disability community, which has long been fighting to be seen, heard, and represented. Inclusion is more than just ensuring a certain number of people attend a specific event or hold particular positions; it’s about recognizing the person as a whole. Representation matters, but it must be approached carefully and purposefully to avoid confining ourselves to more boxes.

    I know I’ve said a lot in this post, and I hope this can spark a series of conversations—that’s what I want. People from different ideologies need to start working and talking together. Democrats and Republicans are not evil; they’re human! Don’t categorize people. Don’t judge others before you truly get to know them. Learn to see the whole person, not just certain aspects of what you observe on the surface. Thanks for reading, and I’ll see you next time.

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  • Playing Games

    Playing Games

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  • All  Dressed Up

    All Dressed Up

    Today, let’s chat about clothes—not from a fashion standpoint, but how they make us feel. Most people feel comfortable working from home in socks, shorts, and T-shirts. I imagine some of you might feel slightly envious when I say that’s my usual work attire. Working from home truly is a blessing, especially for accessibility. It’s a gift I never take for granted.

    If I worked a typical job, I’d have to navigate public transportation and spend extra time getting dressed. Yet, here’s my paradox: I love getting dressed up! There’s something about wearing a freshly ironed shirt and a tie that makes me feel invincible like I’m donning a suit of armor. It might sound a bit vain, but looking sharp boosts my confidence. When people think of disabilities, they often picture someone disheveled or in poor health. Dressing up helps counter that stereotype, and people stare a little less.

    Ephesians 6:11 NIV [11] Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes.

    I’m not ashamed of my disability, but dressing well feels like the closest thing I have to a day off from the assumptions people make. It may sound odd, but it makes perfect sense to me. I love showing people that those with disabilities can lead successful, goal-oriented lives.

    There’s an old saying: “Dress to impress.” If you want people to see you differently, sometimes you need to show them a different side of you. Some people need to see the miracle before they believe it. I’m not claiming to be a miracle, but I see the miracle in the people who help me get ready, making sure I look my best. That’s the real magic!

    I know only a handful of you read this blog It comes out, but I hope when you get dressed for work tomorrow, you’ll take a little extra time to make yourself look different. Maybe it’s a new bow in your hair or a tie you don’t usually wear. Do the small things that make you feel good. When you look good, you feel good, and when you feel good, you look good. It takes extra effort for me to look good, so when I do, I feel exceptionally great.

    As always thanks for reading. I am always looking for new blog ideas, let me know what topics you want me to cover next.