Hello friends, and welcome back to The Advocacy Life podcast with Kevin Nuñez! Disability and death are the only two certainties in life, yet society continues to treat disability like an invisible anomaly or a feel-good inspiration reel. In today’s episode, Kevin addresses a heavy, deeply personal question: Are disability advocates tokens for someone else’s products or political agendas?Kevin candidly discusses his time inside New Jersey’s habilitation day programs, the reality of adult daycare, and his personal perspective on the current New Jersey group home camera legislation. He challenges us to “put our shoes on the wrong feet” to understand the discomfort and lack of control that many nonverbal individuals face daily. If you see a token, you project a token. It’s time to break the mold.Highlights:00:00 – Are disability advocates just props?02:15 – The reality of advocacy: No money, no mansions, just purpose.03:30 – Guest of Senator Andy Kim at the State of the Union.04:45 – What “adult daycare” taught me about communication and “behaviors.”07:30 – The problem with the NJ Group Home Camera Bill.09:15 – Trained staffing vs. surveillance cameras.11:00 – Why I keep rolling.
“These are kids who will never pay taxes. They’ll never hold a job. They’ll never play baseball. They’ll never write a poem. They’ll never go out on a date. Many of them will never use a toilet unassisted.” Robert F. Kennedy Jr.
I want to state from the outset: I don’t hate RFK Jr. I respect and love him as a fellow human walking this earth, despite disagreeing on several key issues. Quotes like these are particularly damaging. They embody the ableism and fear that permeate modern American culture.
The problem with this perspective is that it ignores the fundamental truth that every person with a disability has their own unique journey, their own growth process, their own setbacks, and their own successes.
So often, people with disabilities are lumped into boxes by a system that refuses to let them out. We are treated as if our lives are a “nice, comfortable jail cell.” We don’t realize that the door is a cell door until it gets slammed in our faces—and by then, it’s too late to get out.
RFK Jr.’s comments about dating are a prime example of the dehumanization we face. Just because someone may be non-verbal or have different physical needs does not mean they are unable to consent to or enjoy a loving, caring relationship. There are plenty of non-verbal individuals who have had rich, complex romantic lives—some of them having had more sexual encounters than I will ever have!
Society often measures our value by our productivity—by whether we pay taxes or hold a traditional job. With the new “Home and Community Based services HCBS” cuts coming to the nation in October 2026, many of us will be forced to choose between our health insurance and our ability to work.
We are forced to disclose our limitations and decide: Do we stay in poverty to keep our benefits, or do we risk it to earn a little bit of money? It is these societal norms that are damaging us, not our wants or our wills. We want to work—we want to work harder than most other Americans. We just need the real opportunities to do so.
Quotes like these don’t help anyone; they just hurt. If you want to help someone with a disability, don’t look for what you think they “can’t” do. Make them stronger, and they will make you better.
Don’t be afraid of us. Thrive with us. Push us. Educate us—because we can educate you in the same way. Together, we can learn from each other. That is what a good society does. That is what a good America does.
While the integrity of our elections is a goal we can all respect, it should never come at the cost of disenfranchising a significant portion of our population. The Safeguard American Voter Eligibility (SAVE) Act (H.R. 8281) creates functional barriers that strike at the heart of our democratic principles: the idea that every voice—and every vote—matters.
For many in the disability community, the SAVE Act introduces “limbo” in the form of administrative The Act requires documentary proof of citizenship (like a passport or birth certificate) to register to vote. Millions of Americans lack these documents readily at hand, and for those with mobility or transportation challenges, the process of obtaining them can be nearly impossible.including
the AAPD, have noted that these requirements disproportionately impact people with disabilities, students, and low-income individuals who may not have the means to navigate complex bureaucratic systems.
By adding these layers, the Act undermines the National Voter Registration Act (NVRA), which was designed to make it easier—not harder—for all citizens to participate in their government.Excluding a population from the polls is against the very spirit of our nation. True election integrity comes from ensuring that every eligible citizen, regardless of their physical or cognitive ability, has a clear path to the ballot box.
Missing two weeks of blogging and podcasting is never ideal, but I am officially back, and new content is on the way.
An article from Disability Scoop regarding a flag flown at the US Capitol to honor a 22-year-old who tragically died at a day program hits incredibly close to home. I spent over 10 years attending a series of disability day programs. Because I have the physical ability to speak clearly, I would often find myself stepping up to be the voice for my peers who were non-verbal. When tragedies like this happen, lawmakers rush to find legislative fixes, but we need to talk about what actually works.I
I strongly agree that more oversight is needed to protect vulnerable individuals, and we absolutely need higher standards in training our staff. However, some of the specific legislation being proposed—like mandating surveillance cameras everywhere—is deeply flawed. Cameras and surveillance systems cannot prevent tragedies.
Not all individuals are the same, and blanketing communal spaces with constant surveillance will deny us our dignity and privacy without due process. This article hits home on a painfully personal level. During my time in the system, I attended far too many funerals for my fellow brothers and sisters from day programs and group home settings. Tragically, sometimes there is no one there at those services besides the other residents.During
During the pandemic in 2020, so many of these individuals passed away in isolation. To the general public, they weren’t seen as people with lives, stories, and friends—they were just numbers going up on a screen.We
We must do better to honor their lives, protect their privacy, and raise the standards of the care they receive.
For many, the American Dream is built on a foundation of opportunity and the freedom to grow. But for the one in four New Jersey residents living with a disability, that dream is often deferred by a “hidden tax” that drains both bank accounts and spirits. I am a 38-year-old advocate with a developmental disability, and while I love this country and its potential, I often feel like I am financially suffocating.
Living with a disability means ordinary tasks—like grocery shopping or attending a doctor’s appointment—come with added economic burdens. Research shows that U.S. households with a disabled member need approximately 29% more income to maintain the same standard of living as those without. At a median income, that’s an extra $18,322 per year just to keep pace.
Accessible Vehicles: Often costing upwards of $60,000.
Power Wheelchairs: High-end, necessary chairs can cost as much as $26,000 to $50,000.
The most frustrating barrier to financial independence isn’t just the high cost of living; it’s the outdated policy that keeps us in poverty. To maintain essential Medicaid-funded personal care, many must stay below the poverty line.
For decades, the Supplemental Security Income (SSI) asset limits have been frozen. Since 1983, an individual is capped at $2,000 in their bank account, while a married couple is limited to $3,000. This “marriage penalty” and the inability to save for the future means we are effectively barred from the wealth-building tools—like stocks or significant savings—that other Americans rely on.
Beyond the dollars and cents, there is a heavy “time tax.” My colleague Javier Robles, Director of Kinesiology and Health at Rutgers University, highlights how this shapes every decision.
Whether it’s paying more for a guaranteed accessible hotel or the hours spent researching destinations only to find “accessible” promises aren’t met, the stress is constant. Javier famously recalled a trip to Italy where he had to be carried onto a boat by firefighters because the promised accessibility was non-existent.
As Javier puts it:
“Being disabled means that you often pay more or you do without or you miss out on a lot of things because you can’t afford them or they’re inaccessible to you.”
We need to move beyond complex workarounds like ABLE accounts or Special Needs Trusts, which can be restrictive. True advocacy means fighting for systemic change—like raising the individual asset limit to $10,000.
New Jersey has taken steps with updated Workability programs, but implementation remains slow. It is time to ensure that all Americans, regardless of ability, have the freedom to contribute to the economy and build a secure future. Without financial freedom, the “Land of Opportunity” remains out of reach for millions. Keep on rolling. Keep on Living.
“Disability and death are the only two strategies in life.”
In this episode of The Advocacy Life, Kevin Nuñez tackles a topic that the major news outlets are missing: The Social Security Restoration Act. Most people don’t realize that the rules governing SSI and SSDI haven’t been significantly updated since the 1970s.
Kevin breaks down the “Common Sense” reasons why this legislation is a necessity for all Americans, regardless of political alliance. He shares personal insights into the “marriage penalty” and the “poverty trap” that prevents disabled individuals from saving money or building a life with a partner.
Key Takeaways:
The Resource Gap: Why the $2,000 asset limit is outdated and counterproductive.
Equality in Marriage: Understanding why the current system punishes people with disabilities for getting married.
Beyond ABLE Accounts: Why the Serious Injury Restoration Act offers a more logical path forward than current savings tools.
How to Take Action: Your voice matters—learn how to tell your legislators to support this package of bills.
In the world of disability advocacy, we often talk about “gaps”—the moments where the system fails to catch us. Recently, New Jersey took a step to close one of those gaps. As of April 1, 2026, a new law allows families to begin the guardianship petition process six months before a child turns 18. On the surface, this is a “commonsense and compassionate” reform. It aims to eliminate the terrifying period where a young adult with medically complex needs might be left legally unprotected because of court delays.For
For many families, this isn’t just paperwork; it’s peace of mind. We need to have a real conversation about what guardianship actually is. As someone who has lived in the “disability limbo” of society, I know that equality is about status, rights, and opportunities. While I understand that some individuals require the support of a guardian for their safety, we must admit that guardianship is a slippery slope. When we talk about guardianship,
We are talking about the legal removal of an individual’s right to make their own choices—where to live, how to spend their money, and even who to see. It is, in many ways, a “fancy name” for a loss of independence. If we aren’t careful, we risk turning a protective measure into a permanent ceiling on a person’s potential. Every person with a disability has a “different normal,” but we all have the same fundamental human needs. My needs are different from a peer on the autism spectrum or someone with Down syndrome—not better or worse, just different.
This is why guardianship cannot be a one-size-fits-all solution. We must prioritize supported decision-making models that allow individuals to retain their rights while receiving the help they need. Just because someone needs help balancing a checkbook doesn’t mean they shouldn’t decide who they date or where they work.The ultimate objective should always be to help the individual “flourish and be triumphant” within their community, not to isolate them behind a legal barrier. I’m just trying to leave the world a little better than I found it. This new law in New Jersey is a win for efficiency and protection, but it’s also a reminder to all of us in the community to stay vigilant. We must ensure that “easier” access to guardianship doesn’t lead to “faster” erosion of our rights. Keep on rolling, keep on living.
First things first: I’m back. After taking time for reflection and renewal during the Lent season, I am energized and ready to dive back into the fight. As I shared in Confessions from Disability Limbo, life is a series of “limbo” moments, but we don’t have to stay stuck. We move forward.
Today, we need to talk about the bedrock of our rights. While many know the Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA), we cannot forget its predecessor: Section 504 of the Rehabilitation Act of 1973.
Section 504 was the first federal civil rights protection for us. It essentially says that if an entity gets federal money, it cannot shut us out. It’s why we have access to schools, hospitals, and community programs today.
There is exciting news close to home. Lawmakers in Delaware are taking a massive stand by introducing legislation (like Senate Bill 198) to codify Section 504 protections directly into state law. Why does this matter? Because federal protections can sometimes feel like they’re on shifting sand. By putting these rights into state code, Delaware is ensuring that no matter what happens in Washington, disabled Delawareans have broad, enforceable protections for equal access. Perhaps our wonderful Garden State would consider such an initiative.
We have to stay vigilant. There are currently several states renewing attacks on Section 504’s “integration mandate”—the very rule that keeps us out of institutions and in our communities.
Section 504 isn’t just a “legal thing”—it’s about our dignity and our right to be “equal and contributing members of society”. Let’s keep building that stronger future together.
Stay tuned for the next podcast episode! Keep on rolling. Keep on living
Why is it that in the movies we watch and the reality TV we consume, disability is only portrayed in a handful of ways? Why are we always the “inspiration” or the “tragedy,” but never just the person?
In this episode of The Advocacy Life, Kevin Nunez delves into the “Exposure Method” to explore how American media sanitizes the disability experience. From the “cute” portrayals on TV to the harsh reality of “survival math” and the lack of “days off” from a diagnosis, Kevin bridges the gap between how the world sees us and how we actually live.
Welcome back to The Advocacy Life Podcast! In this crucial episode, “The Wheelchair Tool,” we are bridging the gap of understanding between the public and mobility devices. Host Kevin Nunez addresses common misconceptions and misunderstandings about wheelchairs, clarifying the difference between an electric wheelchair and a scooter. Key Takeaways in this episode:Tool, Not a Toy: A wheelchair is an expensive, customized life tool, not an accessory, handbag, or luxury item. Kevin’s new chair, for which he’s been fitted, costs between \$50,000 and \$60,000. The New Chair Goal: Kevin shares his goal of getting a new wheelchair with a rise function to allow him to speak and interact at eye level, and to reach higher shelves. Wheelchair Etiquette 101: Learn the dos and don’ts of interacting with someone in a wheelchair: Never hang off the back or push the chair without permission. Never grab the joystick. Stop the overused, disrespectful jokes like, “How fast does that thing go?”. Defense Mechanism: Kevin discusses how the wheelchair serves as his only defense in public, even during an active shooter drill. Maintenance & Health: The importance of regular servicing, and how being vigilant (like Kevin) can help prevent pressure sores (which are preventable, unlike what happened to Christopher Reeve). Be respectful, be kind, and realize the person in the chair is just trying to live their life the best way they can.Episode Transcripthttps://turboscribe.ai/transcript/share/8457760100267752062/wmlNVLD4RKnq15t6xT7_ZC8Fqyt3qGD_oniImTCAIPI/tal-s4-e2-the-wheelchair-tool