Disability Misconceptions

Every now and then, I get frustrated—not because I’m angry at individuals, but because there’s still so much misunderstanding about disability. What seems straightforward to me often isn’t to others. So, instead of stewing about it, I’ve decided to put together a list of things that I hope will help educate and shift perspectives.

Luke 6:31 NIV 31 Do to others as you would have them do to you.

1. Not All Disabilities Are the Same

We say “everyone is different,” yet so often people treat disability like a one-size-fits-all label. You could line up ten people with the same medical diagnosis, and each one would be affected in a completely different way. Needs, goals, and abilities vary from person to person. What someone can or can’t do depends on a mix of their individual abilities, the support they receive, and the resources available to them.

2. We’re Not Here to Inspire You—Just to Be Your Equal

It shouldn’t be “inspirational” just to see someone with a disability walking down the street. And yet, when we live independently—with the right support—people often question it. Why? We’re just living our lives like anyone else. We want to be treated as equals, not exceptions.

3. Be Flexible

Life doesn’t always go to plan for anyone—and that includes those of us with disabilities. Flexibility, patience, and understanding go a long way when you interact with us. A rigid mindset helps no one.

4. Hollywood Gets It Wrong—A Lot

Movies often miss the mark when it comes to portraying disability. Sure, actors like Tom Hanks and Cuba Gooding Jr. have received awards for their roles, but their performances don’t always reflect reality. Times have changed, and so have our perspectives. It’s important to remember that what you see on screen is entertainment—not education.

5. Ask Questions—Just Be Respectful

Curiosity is fine. But respect is essential. If it’s something you wouldn’t want to be asked or called, don’t say it to someone else—disability or not.

6. Disability Doesn’t Discriminate

It doesn’t care about your skin color, background, or bank account. Anyone can be affected. And just because something is written in a study online doesn’t mean it reflects the lived reality of everyone.

7. We Get Tired Too

Yes, everyone gets tired. But for many people with disabilities, there’s no “clocking out” at the end of the day. The challenges don’t stop at 5 p.m. Sometimes you just don’t want to use the wheelchair or the communication device. And speaking of that—imagine how exhausting it is trying to communicate when you can’t speak.

8. Laugh With Us, Not At Us

Humor is powerful—and we love to laugh! But make sure you’re laughing with us, not at us. That small shift makes all the difference.

9. Don’t Pity Us—Just See Us

We know life isn’t easy. But we’re doing our best, just like you are. We don’t need pity. We need understanding, support, and a fair shot.

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I know this list isn’t revolutionary, and it might not be the most eloquent thing you’ll ever read. But I’ve kept it simple for a reason: clarity helps change hearts. Maybe someone will print this out and stick it on the fridge. Maybe the next time they meet someone with a disability, they’ll see the person—not just the label.

Thanks for reading. Be kind. Be curious. Be human. Good night, friends.

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