Tag: Disability Awareness

  • “The Normal Life” Episode 1 Part 2

    “The Normal Life” Episode 1 Part 2

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  • The Disability Love Paradox

    The Disability Love Paradox

    Hello friends,

    Happy Wednesday to you all! Thank you once again for spending a little time with me. There’s been something on my mind lately, and I want to share it with you guys. This is going to be a bit of a controversial blog. A lot of people will not agree with this. Some people will call me an ableist. Ableism is defined as

    “discrimination in favor of able-bodied people.“discrimination in favor of able-bodied people”.

    Last week, I wrote a blog entitled The Disability Paradox. This is a very complicated sequel. There’s no nice way to say this; romantic relationships are complicated. Having a disability is also complicated. Mixing those two things is not easy. I need to say from the outset that there are individuals with such complex needs that they are not able to have a romantic relationship. That does not mean that they’re not allowed to feel their feelings and try to process them the best way they can. Remember that no two individuals living with a disability are the same, despite whatever the diagnosis says.

    Reality television has done a much better job of including individuals with disabilities in its programming. There was a man on the spectrum who won a season of Big Brother. Years later, there was another female who won the Favorite House Guest award on another season of Big Brother without disclosing her autism diagnosis until the very end of the season. In addition, there was a deaf contestant on the competition series The Circle.

    There is another reality show called Love on the Spectrum that features individuals trying to date with various intellectual disabilities. These are very real people with real feelings I don’t know if it’s the production and editing of the show, but the show comes across as very “inspirational and safe.” They want the individuals to be seen as happy and overcome all kinds of obstacles in their way. Yes, people with disabilities need more support, but the show does not focus on the long-term issues of the relationship, and how they handle those is scarcely shown. This show is designed to make the viewer feel happy. This show doesn’t feel real.

    ‭‭1 Corinthians 13:4-5 NIV‬‬ [4] Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. [5] It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.

    As a person with a physical disability, I feel left out. There is another show I want to focus on called Love is Blind. For those of you unfamiliar with this show, able-bodied folks meet without seeing each other; they date for a few weeks before deciding to get married. This is appealing to me because this is the only scenario where someone would get to know me and not see me as someone in a wheelchair first. I cannot hide, nor do I want to be part of myself. I just want people to learn to look past the disability first.

    I want to have a real conversation about faith, finances, long-term goals with a partner, sex, etc. Why are people with disabilities always segregated amongst ourselves? Everyone on Love is Blind is physically fit and has solid careers. The casting department was able to cover all ethnic backgrounds, but they forgot about the largest minority in the United States. It is important to show that individuals with disabilities should have romantic relationships. However, they are insinuating that they can only date others with disabilities This is not an example of inclusion but rather of exclusion. We are all part of the same human race, and we will have obstacles to overcome, regardless of ability. Real love should be what’s on the inside, not the outside. I know this is the beginning of a much deeper conversation Hopefully, someone will continue around the dinner table tonight.

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  • Chosen Last

    Chosen Last

    In the March 15th episode of the Purposely Broken World, Kevin delivers a very short testimony on the benefits of being chosen last by this world. In the real kingdom, the weak are the strong, and the strong are the weak. Don’t give up; pray first, and pray last. All comments are welcome.

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  • The Diisability Paradox

    The Diisability Paradox

    Hey everyone! How are you doing today? I have something to share with you: I wasn’t always into advocacy. When I was growing up, I thought advocacy was just something my parents did to make sure I had what I needed from my school. To me, people who did advocacy seemed like they were just loud and not really helpful. My parents did a great job treating me like any other kid. They celebrated when I did well and corrected me when I made mistakes. They made sure everything at home and everywhere else was set up so I could do things on my own, like having a low bed I could easily get in and out of.

    My family accepted my disability because it was all they knew about me. I even played baseball with other kids who had disabilities. But my family also knew that the world wouldn’t always make things easy for me. They enrolled me in regular classes at a public school. That’s when I learned about what I call “the Disability Paradox.”

    Advocacy is about teaching people and changing their minds about things they’re not used to. Even though we have laws like the Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA), it doesn’t mean everyone with a disability is treated equally. Think about it: When a mom is expecting a baby, she hopes the baby will be “healthy.” But what does that mean? Why should having a disability be seen as a bad thing?

    Did you know that Franklin D. Roosevelt used a wheelchair because he had polio? He hid it by using special braces on his legs, even though it was really painful. But even now, many people with disabilities still feel like they have to hide who they are. People have done amazing things like going to the moon and building tall buildings, but there are still a lot of people with disabilities who don’t get the help they need.

    We talk about big issues like climate change, but sometimes the solutions don’t work for everyone. Imagine not being able to drink a lemonade on a hot day because of a ban on plastic straws. This is something that could’ve been avoided if people with disabilities were included in the decision-making process.

    We’re not just here to inspire or be pitied. We’re part of society just like everyone else. But why don’t we see more people with disabilities in positions of power? We’re more than just a feel-good story during prom season.

    Lots of people have disabilities, but society often sees us as broken and needing to be fixed. But we’re not broken. We just need the same chances as everyone else.

    This is just the beginning of many conversations we need to have. It’s okay if you don’t understand at first. Just listen and learn. Once we all know better, we can all do better.

  • A Disabled Father

    A Disabled Father

    Happy Wednesday Good people I hope everyone is having a wonderful week. This week I was planning to do a whole blog about the new rules the Department of Transportation (DOT) is hoping to implement to help disabled travelers when they are traveling on airplanes. I read a few articles and even drafted a few lines, but I wasn’t feeling it. It was written without love. So I went back and rewrote something I wrote back in 2020. All these years later, it’s still one of my favorite pieces of writing. You can find the original version in my first publication, Confessions from DisabilityLimbo. I hope you enjoy it. See you next week!

    ‭‭Exodus 20:12 NIV‬‬ [12] “Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you.

    Hi there, I’m Kevin Nuñez, and I’m all about standing up for people with disabilities in New Jersey. I’ve got Cerebral Palsy, but that hasn’t stopped me from joining state committees to make life better for folks like me and our families. Now, I get it—when you saw the title of this blog, you probably laughed or rolled your eyes. “How could a guy like me be a dad? Can I even handle changing diapers or holding a baby without dropping them?” Sound familiar? You might’ve even thought, “This is too far-fetched. Let’s talk about something else.”

    Let’s clear the air. I don’t have all the answers. I’m what you call a “realistic optimist.” That means I know how tough life can be, but I’m always on the lookout for the good stuff. I’m 33 years old, and it’s been forever since I went on a real date. So yeah, the chances of me becoming a dad anytime soon are pretty slim. But here’s the thing: life isn’t just about having all the answers. It’s about the journey, about keeping hope alive even when the odds are stacked against you.

    I know not everyone with a disability can have kids. It’s complicated, and I get that. This blog might not resonate with everyone, and that’s okay. All I want is to start a conversation—maybe even one you’ll have at your next family dinner.

    Hey, William Christopher,

    I’ve been holding onto this until you turned 18 because I want you to know how much you mean to me. I wrote this back in 2020, when everyone was thinking about their lives. It was before I met your mom, back when I had all this love in my heart but no one to share it with. So even though I might not be the perfect dad, I want you to know that I’ve always loved you.

    I can’t wait to be there for all your big moments—teaching you to ride a bike, helping you up when you fall. I’m not sure how we’ll figure it all out, but we will. And hey, you’re going to be bilingual—English and Spanish. Trust me, it’ll come in handy someday when you’re filling out job applications.

    It’s not going to be easy when people stare at us in public, but you’ve always handled it like a champ. I’m looking forward to watching baseball games with you and having fun wrestling matches, even if you know it’s all staged. Just remember to balance the fun stuff with hard work, and always treat everyone with kindness and respect.

    Happy 18th birthday, buddy. Make it a good one.

    Lots of love,

    Dad Kevin

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  • SABE, Books, & More

    SABE, Books, & More

    For the first episode of March, Kevin is proud to present this laid-back episode where he simply updates you on the fun times he had in the last few months. This is a different kind of podcast from your favorite little podcaster.

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    New Jersey Council on Developmental Disabilities

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    A Promised Land 

  • Life Update February 2024

    Life Update February 2024

    Greetings readers, are you ready for spring? I know it seems kind of far away. I’m writing this with only a few days left in February. There is still a cold chill in the air. Although spring training games have officially begun, warmer weather must be on the way. I have observed several bloggers doing this by providing their followers with updates on their activities. I wanted to share my exciting upcoming projects with everyone to encourage them that anything is possible, even though it always seemed a bit silly to me. Hey, every few months, the president gives a State of the Union. I may not be the best writer in the world, but I can promise it’ll be better than that.

    ‭‭Mark 9:23 NIV‬‬   “ ‘If you can’?” said Jesus. “Everything is possible for one who believes.”

    Let’s start with the health stuff. As of now, I have no major health concerns or upcoming medical procedures. This is really cool because last year I had two surgeries: a hiatal hernia removal and an endoscopy. The hernia revealed a whole bunch of polyps in my upper stomach that were noncancerous. When you have a disability, it always seems like there’s some weird medical thing on the horizon, so it’s nice for now to just enjoy the sunset.

    Next update on my advocacy career. I now represent seven states on a national board of directors run by and for people with disabilities. The organization is called Self Advocates Becoming Empowered or SABE click here to read about my initial reactions to joining this organization. For now, I can say it is the most challenging but thrilling adventure of my life. Helping others is what I was made for. I don’t even care about traveling across the country. Truth be told, some days I’d rather be home in bed. I don’t do this for prestige. The day it becomes about that is the day I leave people with disabilities. They should need to be at the table to make a difference.

    Finally, I want to recommend something that has nothing to do with disability at all. It’s a very fun and entertaining book called Mox. It is the personal memoir of professional wrestler and sports entertainer John Moxley. Yes, wrestling is partly staged, but they’re still real athletes trying to entertain you. This book teaches you about life in a very different way. You can turn your brain off, but some important nuggets will sneak in there.

    I know this is a different kind of blog. I hope you guys still enjoyed it. Thanks for your time, and have a great day. I will see you guys next week.

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  • Fighting for One

    Fighting for One

    Happy Wednesday, my wonderful readers. Once again, I hope you guys are having a good day. and I want to thank you for spending a few minutes with me. When you hear the word “fighter,” what’s the first image that pops into your mind? Most likely Rocky Balboa or Bruce Lee if you’re over a certain age. If you’re more realistic, you probably think of Muhammad Ali or Randy Couture as two of the best in their sports. That’s not who I think about. I picture Muhammad Gandhi, Martin Luther King Jr., and Brad Lomax as people who won impossible battles. They were outmatched, and their lives were in danger. They fought with their words, not their bodies.

    I relate to this because I am physically weak. I’m only 5 feet, and I weigh barely 135 lbs. I have Cerebral Palsy (CP) There are a million things I can’t do for myself. I am unqualified to do anything. Instead, I was called and then qualified. The other day, I was asked, “Why do you keep going? What are you fighting for?” I may occasionally have guest writers, but I have done the majority of the work on this website. I created every single social media post. It can be a little frustrating As a content creator, it is very difficult not to look at the numbers to see whether or not my website’s getting traffic. How many listens does my podcast get? I recently added a bonus newsletter for some paid subscribers. I thought this would add a more fun aspect to my writing. I thought people might enjoy this. As of now, I only have one subscriber. So how do I not get lost in the numbers?

    I’ve just begun to learn that I was given this disability as a platform, not a weakness. Every podcast, blog, tweet, and keystroke is done with the help of the Holy Spirit. My new goal is just to help one person at a time. There are tons of podcasts, and anyone can make a blog. My hope is that anything I produce can make one person smile. I might not know who they are. I might not know their circumstances. I know they’re warriors like me.

    ‭‭1 Timothy‬ ‭6:12‬ ‭NIV‬‬ 12 Fight the good fight of faith. Take hold of the eternal life to which you were called when you made your good confession in the presence of many witnesses.

    The show scandal is famous for the tagline “gladiators in suits.” Well, this is to all my warriors in wheelchairs. My warriors use walkers. My Warriors, who don’t use words. My warriors may have invisible disabilities. our battle is long, and your battle is hard, but we can make a difference. we are the difference. The world sees your weaknesses, but you know your strengths. You grow stronger every day because you overcome more every day. Would God save his best warriors for the easy battles or save them for the ones he needs to win? Don’t give up. Keep going. Don’t look back; keep moving forward. Thank you for your time, and I hope to spend more time with you next Wednesday.

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  • A Valentine’s Day Message

    A Valentine’s Day Message

    Happy Valentine’s Day! I hope this blog brings some joy to your day. Over the weekend, many couples celebrated Valentine’s Day, which is honestly my favorite holiday. Even though we should show love to our friends and family every day, it’s easy to forget in the hustle and bustle of life. That’s why having a special day dedicated to love is so important.

    To me, Valentine’s Day isn’t about fancy gifts like flowers and chocolates. It’s more about showing genuine care and support for someone, even in small ways.

    Now, let’s talk about something important: advocating for people with disabilities. Before we get into it, I want to be clear. Some people with disabilities may not be able to understand or consent to romantic relationships, and that’s okay. But for those who can, it’s important to challenge misconceptions about what they’re capable of.

    ‭‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭13:4‭-‬5‬ ‭NIV‬‬ [4] Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. [5] It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 

    Years ago, people with disabilities were often kept out of sight in institutions. But things are changing, just like they did for the LGBTQ community. It takes time, but education and breaking down stereotypes are key.

    Having a disability can make romantic relationships more challenging, but it’s not impossible. It just takes understanding and communication from both partners. There might be people who don’t understand or stare, but love knows no boundaries, whether one or both partners have a disability.

    It’s important to see the person beyond their disability. I’ll share links to two couples who are in integrated relationships to show that it’s possible. I promise to keep talking about this topic regularly in my blog because awareness is important, just like having accessible facilities.

    I’m sending love to everyone who needs it today, and I’ll see you next Wednesday!

    Sources:

    Roll with coal and Charisma

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